SUICIDE (Deaths of Spade & Bourdain, and 3 curious questions)June 10, 2018
2 weeks ago, I arranged a small dinner with a widow who lost her dear husband (50-years married)…
I was a little worried because I could hear her grief and tears over our previous phone conversations.
But during dinner she seemed to have recovered, and I wasted no time to ask her 3 curious questions.
1st question I asked her was if she had HURT or RESENTMENT about her husband’s death (Usually people blame 3…) ?
- they can blame the person who died (it was your fault),
- they can blame themselves (it was my fault),
- they can blame God (If you are good why did You allow this?)
From her(widow) answer, it was clear her heart was not bitter inspite of her tragic loss.
2nd question I asked was: “Now that your life-partner is gone, do you still have a PURPOSE in life?”?
She said yes. She said she is the only one who has grace to take care of her bipolar son who stays with her at home.(she says nobody could do that role but she)
I know of some businessmen who, if they lost their business, would try to end their life—sadly because their LIFE PURPOSE is their WORK. When they lose their work, they lose purpose, and see very little reason to continue living.????
Some make their romantic partner their life purpose. When they lose their lover, they lose purpose in their life and start entertaining deep depression and thoughts of suicide.?
I’m glad this widow STILL HAS PURPOSE inspite losing her lifetime partner.?
3rd and lastly, I asked her, “Is your life yours?”, “WHO OWNS YOUR LIFE? Is it you?”?
Some people that believe they are the supreme OWNERS of their life, will take a shot at taking their own life(suicide) when they’re at rock bottom.
I’m glad the widow answered, “My life is NOT mine, it is God’s.” ⭐
Honestly, there have been times I(RP) thought of destroying my life when I was really down, but the bugging truth that God OWNS MY LIFE kept insisting itself inside my heart to STOP… Your life is NOT yours, it is His.”☀
This week had the lives of both successful world superstars Anthony Bourdain(celebrity chef) and Kate Spade(fashion designer) end in tragic suicide deaths by hanging.????
Being kind is helpful, but cracks in the foundations of the heart ultimately self-destruct in the long run inspite of many friends, money, fame, success, laughter, love, sex, even alcohol & drugs.
Never tire to ask reflective questions DIRECTED TO THE HEART. Let us build strong before the storm hits hard.?⛈
Take heart:) ❤
***3 Curious Questions
1. Do you have a lot of hurt in your heart?
2. What is your life purpose? Is it about your work, or your lover? What if you lost them, would you still have purpose?
3. Is your life yours? Who owns your life? Is it you?
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