That Time Someone Had to “Referee” Our Fight!

MARICAR:

Reality check to self — marriage does not mean I will never get my heartbroken again! ;p

Only one month after our beautiful “fairytale” wedding, Richard and I got into a really bad fight! We’d TRY to talk it out, but we’d quickly irritate each other, end up shouting and being disrespectful!

It was so bad that I was tempted to pack my bags and stay with my brother for a while! (I’m the “runner” in the relationship ;p)

But I’ve been warned that running away will never solve my problems. So even if I didn’t feel like it, I urged Richard to call Jayson and Kat Lo to come and “referee” our fight.

We’re so grateful they made time for us that evening. I love them for never taking sides, telling the brutal truth, and teaching from their own experiences.

A big part of why Richard and I are still extremely fond of/kilig with each other even after 4 years, is because of mentors like them who guide us.

RICHARD:

I grew up in a broken family. If you are the same, you are familiar with the brokenness (baggage, issues) that comes with it.

Before even getting married, Maricar and I were advised to have married couples who we both respected and felt safe to connect with deeply.

Posted by relationshipmatters, March 25, 2018