Blogs

MARICAR: Richard and I spent the Holy Week at home. We didn’t really do anything “exciting.” We slept late, without setting an alarm for the next day. (What a joy that was!) I read a book or got some writing done while Richard arranged music for his concert in May. We also got hooked watching […]

MARICAR: Reality check to self — marriage does not mean I will never get my heartbroken again! ;p Only one month after our beautiful “fairytale” wedding, Richard and I got into a really bad fight! We’d TRY to talk it out, but we’d quickly irritate each other, end up shouting and being disrespectful! It was […]

MARICAR My friend Annie (not her real name) owes me money. One day I heard that she got a huge bonus at work. Part of me became very hopeful that she would begin to pay me back. But instead of returning my money, she spent it on a new car, new household items, and also […]

MARICAR: Something I’ve learned from my mistakes/low points —where I decide to place my identity. 1. If I place it in the way I look — I’d get insecure when someone more beautiful comes along.   2. When I put my identity in good work/perfection —one harsh criticism (even if it’s true), and I’m depressed. […]

MARICAR: PERSPECTIVE is a way of looking at things. Sometimes the 1st step to fixing an issue is not to change the person, but to change our perspective. OLD PERSPECTIVE: Our common frustration—Richard wishes I would confront plainly, truthfully, immediately. I wish that he would be more gentle and patient. In the height of our […]

MARICAR: Girls of all ages like to ask me, “Do you believe in signs? (To confirm that he’s “the one.”) Remember that guy I liked for three years, when I was still single, but he didn’t like me back?(Read about it here) One afternoon, I was waiting for a taxi in front of my apartment […]

In a coffee shop I heard a woman sigh heavily, telling her friend, “hay nako! Pag babae na nag-give up (on the relationship) wala na talaga!” That made me wonder if it was completely true. STORY 1: One morning in 2012, after 2 years of a confusing push-and-pull (lulubog-lilitaw) relationship with Richard, I decided to […]

Yesterday we watched Meet Me In St. Gallen. Maricar: The movie was so relatable. It reminded me of the time when Richard and I liked each other a lot but couldn’t “be together” because of certain circumstances. An absolutely frustrating time, but filled with so much hope and buckets of kilig. ;p Bela and Carlo […]