When A Loved One Is Hard to Honor
February 4, 2018
MARICAR: Whenever I’d meet my female mentors about an issue Richard and I are having, I am always shocked– I couldn’t believe such joyful, beautiful women had been through so many difficult times. Some have experiences much worse than what I’d be whining about. And all of them, still very much in love with their husbands. Why […]
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With Whom Do You Have #NoFilter ?
January 19, 2018
MARICAR: During our “undefined relationship” phase, Richard and I had a phone conversation about our past relationships. He spoke, unfiltered, about his “eventful” lovelife. His brutal honesty was surprising. He wanted me to know who he was, good and bad. When it was my turn, I froze. It was easy to talk about the good, […]
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Feeling “Better Than You” or “Not Good Enough”
December 22, 2017
MARICAR: When Richard and I have a fight, I need to keep myself balanced between two thoughts: 1.) Thinking – “I’m better than you” vs. 2.) “I’m not good enough.” Going too far either way is dangerous for any relationship. Thinking “I’m better than you.” No matter what the issue, between the two of us, […]
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Sports and Nagging Parents
December 19, 2017
RICHARD: My dad was so good in basketball. He played for the Mapua Cardinals in college and also for the Hongkong(Macau) National Basketball team? Even if I had decent basketball skills, I always felt sad being compared to my dad. No matter how hard I tried, he was always better in basketball than me If […]
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I Married A Leader I’m Proud To Support
December 8, 2017
Kilig, attraction, companionship, financial support —all are important. But in the long term (20, 30,50 years from now) what really matters is purpose. Why did God put me in this world? I wasn’t placed in this world just to travel, eat chocolate, and be happy. Richard does not give me purpose. My purpose is between […]
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Why Don’t You Talk To Me?
November 30, 2017
MARICAR: In the past, when we’d argue, Richard always had a good point. But the tone he used to explain himself was rather rough and painful because he was also hurt by what I said. So in the early years of our relationship, I was afraid (praning) to bring up issues with him, even though […]
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How Do I Know if He/She Is THE ONE?
November 20, 2017
MARICAR: I get asked this a lot— And I used to answer: “if the two of you “click” when it comes to conversation.” Today my no. 1 criteria is: If you like how he handles conflict and offense, then he’s the one. Nothing makes you experience the REALITY of the marriage vow more than a […]
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